Loving yourself is easier said than done. It is very simple to say but its tough at times or maybe complicated too. It’s not an issue for one person in particular who feel they’re not worthy of anyone’s love – many people struggle with it on a slightly different level, consciously or unconsciously giving up too much without allowing yourself to breathe, only to find out later on that doing so can result in bitterness.
Loving yourself isn’t just knowing your worth. It’s also about taking action to get what you deserve. It’s about accepting that you’re important and that you’re whole and complete the way you are. All of this stems from self-appreciation and affirmation—that you are as valuable as the person next to you is.
Self-Love is at times misjudged by a lot of us and there are these myths I need to clear about the topic.
Self-Love is not Self Obsession.
Although frequently considered narcissistic, self-love, truth be told, is another thought inside and out. While narcissism is characterized as an unnecessary enthusiasm for one’s very own appearance, made up for lost time in self-ingestion, self-love is an important quality in holding a solid attitude. As opposed to self-retention, self-love can advance parity in one’s life, therefore expanding energy and open doors for satisfaction.
Self-Love is not Arrogance.
While self-love is highly correspondent with self-image; the two are not eternally bound. If you have a negative self-image, you are not likely to love yourself. A poor perception of the self can be detrimental to well-being when it fosters thoughts of being unworthy or incompetent. Conversely, as Campbell discusses, if your self-image is too ego-oriented, it can also lead to narcissism. The concept of self-love exists on a spectrum where a healthy self-image is key.
Self-love is not Evaluation.
Another misconception about self-love is that people are too self-involved to see their weaknesses or limitations however self-love is actually highly correlated with self-actualization. Self-actualization is the state of becoming who we are meant to be, and truly accepting that.
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