Deciding to hold on to the past or some past experiences will hold you back from a creating a strong of self or in simpler sense will let you lose yourself which I am sure you don’t want to let it happen- a self that isn’t defined by your past, but rather by who you want to be.
To let go does not mean to get rid of. To let go means to let be. When we let be with compassion, things come and go on their own.” –Jack Kornfield
Keeping the pain inside you does not fix anything. Replaying the past over and over again doesn’t change it and wishing things were different from what they eventually turned out to be doesn’t make it so. In major cases, when it comes to the past, all you can do is accept the fact that ‘Yeah, this happened to me’ and then there comes the power of acceptance. That’s how everything changes.
If you’re holding a grudge or find it hard to let go something, I am sure this might help.
Understand the fact that you cannot control others’ actions. You can really only control yourself and das how you act: Lettings things go.
You can’t change another person, so don’t waste your time and energy trying (on certain grounds I feel). I think this is the biggest factor that pushes people to hold onto unhelpful behaviors, like the need to please. We think, “If only I do everything for everyone, they’ll never get mad at me.” Wrong! Lettings things go is difficult but will work in the longer run.
Don’t rely on the investment when it comes to dealing with people, because it often leads to disappointment.
As I have already mentioned an article on ‘expectations’ and how expectation is a mistrusted emotion. There are no guarantees in life, and there’s nothing one can do to get the outcomes the person really looks for while dealing with others. When our expectations or needs aren’t met, we need to respond rationally and appropriately. Sometimes this means setting respectful boundaries; other times, it means letting things go
Be expressive in what works for you the best.
As in my recent article, I had mentioned how Sharing your thoughts is damn effective. Finding your voice, sharing with others and if works for you, you’ll no longer bottle up your emotions. Expressing yourself is an important part of feeling good about yourself and your relationships.
I hope you had a good time reading this article. Share if you feel and start letting things go.