Letting things go: Three ways to do it.

Hello guys,

Previously on the Soul Talks, I had mentioned about Eminem and his music video Venom, which was basically decoding his song. Today the aspect that I’m gonna talk about is ‘Letting Things Go.’

Deciding to hold on to the past or some past experiences will hold you back from a creating a strong of self or in simpler sense will let you lose yourself which I am sure you don’t want to let it happen- a self that isn’t defined by your past, but rather by who you want to be.

To let go does not mean to get rid of. To let go means to let be. When we let be with compassion, things come and go on their own.” –Jack Kornfield

Keeping the pain inside you does not fix anything. Replaying the past over and over again doesn’t change it and wishing things were different from what they eventually turned out to be doesn’t make it so. In major cases, when it comes to the past, all you can do is accept the fact that ‘Yeah, this happened to me’ and then there comes the power of acceptance. That’s how everything changes.

If you’re holding a grudge or find it hard to let go something, I am sure this might help.

Understand the fact that you cannot control others’ actions. You can really only control yourself and das how you act: Lettings things go.

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You can’t change another person, so don’t waste your time and energy trying (on certain grounds I feel). I think this is the biggest factor that pushes people to hold onto unhelpful behaviors, like the need to please. We think, “If only I do everything for everyone, they’ll never get mad at me.” Wrong! Lettings things go is difficult but will work in the longer run.

Don’t rely on the investment when it comes to dealing with people, because it often leads to disappointment.

letting things go

As I have already mentioned an article on ‘expectations’ and how expectation is a mistrusted emotion. There are no guarantees in life, and there’s nothing one can do to get the outcomes the person really looks for while dealing with others. When our expectations or needs aren’t met, we need to respond rationally and appropriately. Sometimes this means setting respectful boundaries; other times, it means letting things go

Be expressive in what works for you the best.

letting things go

As in my recent article, I had mentioned how Sharing your thoughts is damn effective. Finding your voice, sharing with others and if works for you, you’ll no longer bottle up your emotions. Expressing yourself is an important part of feeling good about yourself and your relationships.

I hope you had a good time reading this article. Share if you feel and start letting things go.

Piyush Choudhary

I see people hide their emotions and shut them down. Why on earth do you do that? If such is the case then stop breathing... I mean I don't mean that thing seriously but all I want to say is "Express Yourself!"

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  1. Actually wise words..
    We cannot control others.. so let the tgings go.

  2. Couldn’t agree more.. this is so well put! Such a thoughtful post!! 😊

    1. I appreciate your time to read and comment on the post. Thank you Kranti😊

      1. My pleasure always dear! 😊

  3. Lovely words. I so agree that you can only control your own actions. Wise words. Keep spreading your beautiful thoughts

  4. A very important blog for our generation
    The 2nd phrase is a complete solution to this problem

    1. It’s so lovely that one comes up and links my articles to their lives and appreciates it! Thank you Vaibhav!❤️

    1. I’m glad that you found it helpful. Also, thank you for taking the read!

  5. Excellent post on letting go Piyush….U have used wise words friend…. Every point you covered was like were words of wisdom. You have understanding of life way beyond your age…i had written a post in my blog with the same title in the month of December 2017….in the beginning of my blogging days.. If you are interested here is the link anamikaisblogging.wordpress.com/2017/12/27/letting-go/
    A very good post Piyush you have excelled again…

    1. Thank you Anamika for your appreciating words always and I’d be glad to check out the post…. Thank you for sharing.

      1. Oh….ohoh….you please leave these formalities aside when u chat with me Piyush…you knw it’s always a pleasure to read your write ups and to share my view on it….and for sharing my post link I shld thank you for reading it as it is one of my early scribblings…you knw that i wrote nearing the year end last year and i just revised my that year in my mind and noted down and thus came that post… kind of a resolution for an year end to let go of my past hurts and egos. So its kind of naive post ….so forgive me if you find it a little bit raw and unpolished for your tsste…

        1. Okay Anamika! I will take that into consideration and would be less formal with you.
          Also, I feel that you know penning down what you feel is an art and very few people can do it and kudos to you that you can do it so brilliantly and please do not say that it was a naive post as your post are nowhere to naive or raw or unpolished. They mean depth and they are fruitful.

          1. You are being very kind with your words friend…haha…you make me feel so good about myself. . Thank you for making my day yaar☺☺☺

          2. True delight is when others feel good cus of you’ Thank you Anamika for your kind gesture.

          3. Hum na aapko bada respect karte hain isliyee bas….

          4. Haha…you are funny… aapze badi hu iska matlab ye nahi ki aap muje mam bhulaye…respect tho teek hein…but i am your friend too…

          5. Aap sirf friend nai janab…aap bade acche dost hoo* I mean don’t get me wrong but sirf shabdo pe log inta connect ho sakte hain wo maine jana

          6. Piyush…tdy I respect your words…. mera words itna kisiko effect karega muje iska andaz nahi tha….I am touched by your words and thoughts…

          7. Nai matlab kaisa hota haina ki log galat samaj lete hain isliye clear karna accha rehta hain….

          8. Haha….you are smart …way smarter than I thought…

          9. No…no my thinking was a mistake… haha… .😁 Aap tho Ustaad nikle…😁

          10. Yepp…did some assignments…played FIFA for a while….read engaging on WP and other places…
            and close friends….. wby? how is your Sunday? Seems like sunday might have had some surprises for you.

          11. Great ..looks like you engaged yourself pretty well tdy . Mine is.going on fine too….surprises tho kutch nahi….but the usuals…Reading book now….

          12. Waise agar aapko mind na kare toh kya aap bata sakte hoo kaunsi book padh rahe hoo?

          13. Ya….sure….Piyush….why not..
            I am reading ” Tell me your Dreams” by Sydney Sheldon. In fact I am re reading it for the 3rd time …I like it so much….
            Do you read? I mean as a hobby…or you are not a book person?

          14. Ohhooo…good choice. I used to read Anamika but ab aadat chut gayi hain…

          15. Never mind…you have so much other interest…much more worth while…and you are already guru in soul talk😉

          16. Guru toh aap jaise logo ne darja diya hain par hum toh bas ek sadharan vyakti hain jo apne feelings likhte hain

          17. Sadharan vyakthi tho nahi hein…aap mein kuch tho baath hein…that iz why u think different from your age group and ur friends call you soul guru…

          18. Arey reyy aapne toh din he bana diya humara…thank you ji!!

          19. I am only glad I made your day…for you are worth the words I told…

          20. Waise toh main na movies dekhta nai janab par Raees movie ka dialogue yaad aaya ki ‘din toh logo ke hote hain majnudar saheb par shero ka toh zamana hota hain’
            Aap wahi sher hoo jo logo ke zamane badal detee hain

          21. Haha…sherini shaayad…😁
            Sher aur shayiri mein din aur raath dono ghuzar gaye….ab chalo jaake rest bhi lethe hein thaaki Monday kho face karne keliye rest ki zakth zaroorath hein…. so good night…. ☺

          22. Good Night Anamika ji…aapne sahi kaha monday ko fresh rehna hain…take care Anamika..🤙🏻

  6. Thought provoking… I have to agree with every word..

    1. Thank you Chiru for taking the time to read and mentioning your views. Highly appreciated.

  7. A very thoughtful post Piyush, for we cannot control other people or things. We can only monitor ourselves!

    1. Thank you Moushmi! Absolutely true.. we can only control ourselves and if we look to control others then we lose ourselves cus one can only control one at a time.

  8. What a lovely post, full of wisdom and sincerety. Wish more people would be as wise as you, Piyush.

    1. Thank you so much for taking the time and reading!
      I just want to share my thoughts so that those in need can take it and cultivate in their lives. Thank you so much for your kind words😊

  9. Great post, interesting points!

  10. Hello, I have nominated you for the “Blogger Recognition Award”.You can read it all on my blog. Congratulations!!

  11. Hi

    Thank you. I am happy to see your  writing. It gives me a thoughtful thinking and am  happy for that. That is always my intention to see a post that gives me happiness.

    Am happy  to share at least a part of that happiness and love here as am  writing now.

    What you said in your post  is true, sometimes just a drop of that magical post in your blog  is enough to get a person to be happy.

    Good one

    Well, If I wish to be happy is inevitable to keep the vibes flowing.

    Cheers,

    PATRICK

    #PATRICKSTORIES
    Peace ✌and Love ❤

    1. Thank you Patrick for mentioning your views. It is great to have you back and commenting your valuable inputs.

      1. Thank you! I appreciate your thoughtful response.

        Such an awesome way of replying someone. Thanks. Again
        As always your posts are incredible and I enjoying reading every word down till the last line. I must say that you are probably one of the excellent bloggers on WordPress that write inspired
        Writing/post

        Also, I just posted:
        IN HONOUR OF WOMEN.

        Would love to know your views. Love to see your contributions on it. I’m always excited for your comment. 🙂

        You are welcome

        #PATRICKSTORIES
        Peace ✌and Love ❤

  12. Agreed 💯
    I wonder how deeply you gone through it …..wise words from a wisely moulded brain & mind
    Great Brother
    Keep sharing 💙

    1. Ohho long time Akshaya ji…thank you so much for sharing your views. Its a difficult job to let things go but its an act of accepting and moving on from things.

      1. I appreciate your attitude & thought-provoking mentality

        Yes it’s after a long time , but whenever I come to WordPress , I used to check your blog because I’m sure that there will something special as well as valuable us waiting for me .
        It’s always my pleasure to read your post & leaving my comment on it

        1. Akshaya ji…You’re always welcome here and its a pleasure to have you here. Thank you so much for appreciating and spreading your kindness❤️
          Happy Choti Diwali Akshaya!👍🏻😊

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