Previously on The Soul Talks, I gave inputs on what stress is, how it can be controlled. Also, gave valuable tips and tricks to make sure that the stress bar is not exceeding high. In case, you’ve missed the article here’s the link: http://thesoultalks10.com/stressbuster-three-easy-simple-ways-to-curb-stress/
Today, the emotion that I’ll be talking about is Jealousy.
Jealousy is a complex emotion which ranges from fear of abandonment, to rage and also humiliation. The main cause of jealous is when a person perceives a threat from a valued relationship from a third party.
Now, lemme clear this that Jealousy and Envy are different. Jealousy involves a third party seen as a rival for affection. Envy is between two people for example: “I want that from you.”
Jealousy is a painful emotional experience and it is also a signal or a wake-up call you can say that a valued relationship is in danger and necessary steps need to be taken to regain the affection of one’s mate or friend.
I feel Jealousy is necessary to some extent because I’ll tell you that it preserves social bonds. Also, at the same time it motivates people to engage in behaviours that maintain an important relationship.
Now, Jealousy is necessary but not all the time. You’ll become a pecky soul if you stay jealous for most of the time. Also, here I’d like to mention ways through which you can conquer that uneasy feeling and start focusing more onto yourself.
Here are the 3 tips through which you can get over jealousy easily:
Jealousy or betrayal is not the end of the world:
What jealousy can do is help you realize how much the bond matters to you or help you pick up on potential red flags. What it cannot do is full-on prevent your partner or friend to not be a jerk and not put his/her nose to attractive people.
All you can do is your best in communicating your worries and making sure that jealousy isn’t CONSUMING you. Everything else, you cannot control but you can definitely survive.
Take out- doubt!
I know its easier said than done but the very actions you think will reassure you (like interrogating your partner, checking their phone, stalking their ex on social media) will make you more anxious if you never actually find anything. Sometimes your partner/friend is a liar and you’d never learn about the cheating any other way than glancing at their Instagram DM’s. You still have to make sure surveillance doesn’t become an actual habit that slowly takes over your life.
Trust your gut and lower your expectations:
Lowering your expectations does not mean that not keep hope but here what I mean is rules like: “I’m enough for my partner and he/she will never cheat me. I must know what my partner is doing or my partner will never get attracted to someone else” are all according to me bullshit rules cus the more rules you make, you make the partner more prone to jealousy.
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